I'm a little relieved and a little sad.
The Tyler home is now a binka and bottle free zone. Sunday the 13th I decided to take Max off his bottle. I never had to take Grace off the bottle, around 4 months she just decided she didn't want it anymore and ate baby food after that. But not Max, he loved it. He was drinking 5-6 bottles a day, and would hardly eat food. Plus he's such a picky eater - there were nights he didn't eat any dinner and just wanted his bottle. He also didn't want milk out of sippy cup. He would drink water or juice in a cup - but if it was milk he just let it sit there. Well, Monday wasn't too bad, until the afternoon. He cried for about 6 hours straight for his "bababababababa..." + I left his favorite blanket at my moms + he was starting to get a runny nose. I pick the week he's getting a cold to take him off? I must be crazy!
Tuesday he didn't cry for it at all. He was perfectly fine and slept through the night. I started thinking, okay. We're doing pretty good. Wednesday we took the kids to the dentist for the first time. They asked if Grace was a thumb sucker - I said no. Does she still have a pacifier? Um.. yeah... about that...
You may remember last winter when I took Grace's precious binka away. She bawled for it for 5 months. She stole Max's every chance she got. She stole her cousins. She hid in the closet. In the night I'd go in her room and she would have taken Max's and be sucking on it. She is addicted. I hope she never starts smoking or drinking... I finally caved. We gave her a binka for bedtime only. She did good for a while, then it became a nap time/bedtime binka. Then a nap time/bedtime/car ride binka. Then a nap time/bedtime/car ride/ need it "so bad" time binka. I would not let her have it during the day, or when we went places. But she always had it nearby.
Back to the dentist - They said it was pushing her top teeth forward and she had to be done. They suggest Max lose his too and that they had this nasty stuff they could paint on to the binky's and the kids would give them up after a day or two. He said let them have it and let them make the decision to give it up. So we gave that a shot. The kids gagged, slobbered and cried. Grace cried for an hour. Max just kept trying it and gagging. Mike thought it was hilarious, but it broke my heart. But Mike got his - he got some of the sick stuff on his finger without realizing it and put it in his mouth...
Well we barely made it through the fist night. Grace clutched hers in her hand all night long. Thursday morning Max got a hold of his and gagged and threw up in my bed, so I threw it away. later that day I caught Grace with hers in her mouth. I asked if it was gross and she said yes, but kept on sucking it. I told her to get it out of her mouth and she said, "The doctor said I could have it." And she was right, he had. But he also said it was so gross that they wouldn't keep it in their mouths! That night I took it out of her mouth three times, and then I threw it out. She cried Friday and Saturday for that thing. So I found another one and cut the whole nipple off of it. She carries the "broken binka" around with her everywhere. I've caught her trying to suck it more than once.
Sunday my sister tried to tell her that she needed to put the broken bink in an envelope and mail it to Santa for presents. Grace put it in the envelope, and made it a few hours, before nervously saying, "Where's my binka? I don't want presents!"
Yesterday she had a total breakdown at her Grandma's. She cried for over an hour - It was so sad. It's been almost a week now -and I'm just not sure what to do with her.
It's been crazy at the Tyler home. No bottles, no binkas, Max and I have had a bad cold... and secretly wondering... The last week or so I have been so exhausted. I know I had a cold, but it seemed more than that, twice I actually took a nap in the middle of the day, and I'm not a napper. I was nauseous, for days. And my boobs hurt so bad. I am probably the only person in the world that hates my IUD. I have never been so irregular. Slowly I began to wonder.
Grace will be three in January. Max will be 1 1/2 next month. Truly, I didn't want to have another baby right now. I simply don't know what we would do. Max was a surprise and we love him dearly, but I am not ready for another surprise. Little parts of my thoughts started thinking about having another little baby, and a tiny little part of me starting thinking okay. If I am, we will just figure out a way.
But... my back didn't hurt. With Grace my back hurt. With Max, my back hurt for day 1. And so, I didn't really believe I was. But. Well, one does start to wonder- I took a test yesterday. It said No. Very clearly No. Relief. Relief. Relief. and a bit of sadness. One day, maybe in a year or two when my kids are a little more independent. (And not crying over binka's and baba's.) One day. For now I'm just grateful for my two!
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Ok I seriously think people need to back off a little and let you do your own thing with your kids and not give you crap if they still have the binka and baba. Max had his minkie until he was 3 1/2 and seriously I didnt care or worry about it and when he was ready he gave it up. I didnt care if he had it till he was 5. I mean seriously who cares? If they love it and its a security thing then let them have it I say. Its not gonna kill them and I figure my kids will probably need braces anyway with or without haveing the bink for a long time. I did take Chances baba away when he was a year and a half and he did ok but jeez I say if they want the bink let them have it! Its like people telling me no more chocolate its gonna make you fat! Oh well good luck and if you cave I wont junge cuz I would cave too. Your the mom so do what you want and dont worry so much about it and it will be ok. If Taya wants to go to kindergarten with her binka then she can :D
Oh ya and Max was so much better when he had his mink. It twould always calm him down and I loved it. Your not letting them control you just because your letting them have it. Same with the potty training Chance was 4 you just have to let them do there own thing sometimes and one of these days Grace will decide no more minki or it just wont be a big deal to her. If she is in kindergarten and still has it im sure it will only last a day cuz the kids will tease her. I just dont think its that big of a deal. Good luck though with whatever you do! Hell just give it back to her I caved and gave Max's back like 10times and each time I felt so good and happy because he was happy :D
Wow, that must be so hard. I am so sorry. I never had that problem with any of my kids because they would never really take the binky. Even now I have to MAKE Asher take one. He will sometimes. I wish I had some awesome advice but it sounds like you have tried a lot of different things. Did you try calling the dentist back and seeing if they had any other ideas? You could pray about it...maybe that will give you some ideas or at least give you some peace to not worry about it. Good luck...keep us posted. :)
Oh that sounds so familiar. Kade was the same way with his bottle. He would rather have chocolate milk than food. I think that was why I let him keep it for so long. It was easier than trying to get him to eat. Jaxson loves his binks and though he can't ask for it yet he has a certain cry that means I'll shut it if you give it to me. :) After the total withdrawals Kade had with his bottle I'm thinking I'm gonna take the binks before he learns how to ask for it. It's so nice to have the peace though . . . sigh Good luck.
OH the joy of motherhood!! Who would've EVER thought we would be worried about things like this when we were young?!! I'm still trying NOT to crack up!!
lol! I think the Santa Idea was a great one!
Be strong you can do it! Good luck
Take her to the store and let her buy a toy and use the binka as money to pay for it and then she will have that to remember the binka by.
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